Trying to make others happy is an impossible task. Yet, for some of us, it's a tough lesson to unlearn: we are not responsible for the happiness of others.
Even though I adore a good spot of navel gazing, I haven’t always been great at reflecting on how far I’ve come over the course of a year. I know it has to do with the made-up expectations I put on myself. Maybe you’re familiar with this: I love helping others celebrate what they’ve accomplished but when it comes to my own stuff, instead of stopping to give myself a pat on the back, I’m thinking Yeah, yeah but what else you got?
Asking for help can be so hard! Early in my career, I believed that if I didn’t do something completely on my own merit, then it didn’t really count.
Running a business or leading a project without asking for support and advice from others is like working with one hand tied behind your back. Still, many of us struggle.
A wise person recently advised me, “We can’t be in gratitude when we are in judgment.”
That really resonates with me. How are we to embrace love and compassion when we can’t stop wishing that we were further ahead in our work, that our friend or partner was a better listener, or that a colleague would step up their game?
Like so many others, I’m on a journey – a quest for the elusive secret to being truly happy – at work, at home, in life.
Fortunately, I’m not alone. This is a human journey, and I’m travelling this path learning from many brilliant thinkers and authors who have travelled this road before me, laying the groundwork for those who follow.